Principlev1PR-1901
Assess care relationships by whether the other person…
Assess care relationships by whether the other person is developing autonomy and capability, not by whether the relationship makes you feel needed or important.
Why This Is a Principle
Grounds in Illusion of Explanatory Depth (self-assessment unreliable until forced to explain) and Cognitive Dissonance Drives Information Avoidance (cognitive dissonance from contradictory beliefs). The principle prescribes external, observable criteria over internal feelings to evaluate genuine care—derived evaluative framework.