Question
How do I apply the idea that examine your current identity narratives?
Quick Answer
Conduct a Narrative Excavation across five identity domains: professional ("I am / am not the kind of person who..."), intellectual ("I am / am not someone who can..."), relational ("In relationships, I always / never..."), physical ("My body is / is not..."), and creative ("I am / am not creative.
The most direct way to practice is through a focused exercise: Conduct a Narrative Excavation across five identity domains: professional ("I am / am not the kind of person who..."), intellectual ("I am / am not someone who can..."), relational ("In relationships, I always / never..."), physical ("My body is / is not..."), and creative ("I am / am not creative because..."). For each domain, write the dominant narrative in your own words — the version you would say aloud if someone asked. Then for each narrative, answer three diagnostic questions in writing: (1) When did this story first form, and what was the original evidence? (2) Has the evidence been updated since then, or am I running on the original dataset? (3) If a trusted friend held this exact narrative about themselves, would I consider it accurate, or would I push back? Mark any narrative where the answers reveal staleness, inherited origin, or double-standard asymmetry. These are your candidates for revision in L-1146.
Common pitfall: Performing the excavation intellectually without emotional engagement — listing narratives in detached, clinical language that keeps the stories at arm's length. The narratives that most constrain your behavior are the ones that feel truest, the ones you do not experience as stories at all but as simple descriptions of reality. If every narrative you surface feels easy to examine, you have not gone deep enough.
This practice connects to Phase 58 (Identity-Behavior Alignment) — building it as a repeatable habit compounds over time.
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- Examine your current identity narratives
What stories do you tell about yourself that may be limiting your behavior.
Go beyond the answer
This topic is part of The Coach’s Cognitive Toolkit — a guided sequence of 20 lessons.
After completing this path you will have a coherent meta-framework that organizes your coaching models, tools that work at the identity level (not just goal-setting) to close the knowing-doing gap, a measurement system for tracking invisible client progress, and a personal sustainability practice that prevents the burnout that 67% of coaches experience within three years.
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