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Develop capacity for solitude before pursuing deep
Develop capacity for solitude before pursuing deep connection — the ability to be alone without panic is a prerequisite for relationships that do not depend on the other to rescue you from yourself.
Why This Is a Principle
Grounds to Satisfying the psychological needs of autonomy, competence, (autonomy, competence, relatedness as basic needs) and When organisms are repeatedly exposed to aversive situations (learned helplessness from uncontrollable aversive situations). Winnicott's developmental insight that capacity for solitude enables authentic relationship. The principle prescribes sequence: develop solitude capacity first, pursue connection second.