How do I practice relationship patterns?

Pick three significant relationships — one personal, one professional, one that ended. For each, write down: (1) how it started, (2) what role you played, (3) the recurring tension, and (4) how it ended or where it currently sits. Now look across all three. What role do you default to? What tension keeps reappearing? Name the template in one sentence: 'In relationships, I tend to ___.' That sentence is your first relational pattern object.

Common pitfall: Turning this into a blame exercise — cataloguing everything other people do wrong without examining your own contribution to the dynamic. The point is not that others are predictable. The point is that you are predictable, and you can only change the variable you control.

This practice connects to Pattern Recognition — building it as a repeatable habit compounds over time.