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When physiological flooding occurs, use contrasting
When physiological flooding occurs, use contrasting statements to restore mutual purpose by explicitly stating what you don't want the other person to fear alongside what you do want to communicate, which repairs safety before resuming difficult content.
Why This Is a Principle
Grounded in Subcortical Fast-Pathway Threat Processing (fast threat detection) and Psychological safety—the perception that interpersonal risks (psychological safety as precondition). The principle prescribes a repair technique (contrasting) that addresses the safety rupture before continuing content. Actionable, general across conflicts, derived from threat detection and safety axioms.