Concepts
The irreducible epistemic atoms underlying the curriculum. 4,828 atoms across 8 types
Rule
Write your position before emotionally charged…
During emotionally charged disagreements in close relationships, write down your actual position before the conversation and return to it afterward to check whether changes were driven by persuasion or anxiety relief.
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Rule
Use 'I think/want/believe' in relationship disagreements…
In close relationships, frame disagreements using 'I think/want/believe' language rather than 'don't you think' or 'most people' formulations to take explicit ownership of your position.
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Rule
Before difficult relationship conversations, write three…
Before a difficult conversation in a close relationship, externalize your position in writing with three components: what you think, what you're willing to change, and what you're not willing to change.
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