Lessons tagged “self-compassion”
12 published lessons with this tag.
Recovery from broken commitments
When you fail to keep a commitment learn from it and recommit rather than abandoning the goal.
Pressure from your own expectations
Self-imposed pressure can be as sovereignty-undermining as external pressure.
Each drive has legitimate needs
Even drives that seem counterproductive are usually trying to protect something real.
Emotional validation during negotiation
Acknowledge the feelings behind each drive rather than dismissing them.
Honest reflection requires safety
You must be able to look at your failures without judgment to learn from them.
Emotional resilience during behavior disruption
When routines break expect emotional turbulence and plan for it.
Secondary emotions about primary emotions
Feeling ashamed of feeling angry or anxious about feeling sad — these secondary emotions compound.
Shame signals identity threat
Shame differs from guilt — it says you are bad rather than you did bad.
Compassion fatigue in close relationships
Supporting someone emotionally for extended periods can deplete your own resources.
The wise response to failure
Process the emotions of failure completely then extract the lessons.
The limits of emotional wisdom
Even wise people have emotional blind spots and bad days — wisdom includes accepting this.
Suffering as an existential given
Suffering is part of existence — the question is what you do with it.