Lessons tagged “psychological-flexibility”
12 published lessons with this tag.
Strategic yielding versus automatic yielding
Sometimes yielding to pressure is the right choice — the key is that it is chosen not automatic.
Renegotiation when circumstances change
Internal agreements need updating as your life circumstances evolve.
Capacity varies day to day
Some days you have more capacity than others — plan for this variability.
Cognitive defusion
Observe the urge to perform the unwanted behavior without acting on it.
Identity flexibility
Holding your identity lightly enough to update it when evidence warrants.
Building in flexibility
Routines with some built-in flexibility survive disruptions better than rigid ones.
Adaptive patterns that became maladaptive
Patterns that protected you in the past may now limit you.
Pattern acceptance
Accepting that a pattern exists is the first step toward changing it.
Emotional sovereignty means you own your emotional life
No external event or person determines your emotional state without your participation.
Full emotional sovereignty means your emotions serve your life rather than controlling it
When you own your emotional life completely you gain access to its full power and wisdom.
Avoiding suffering avoidance
The attempt to avoid all suffering often creates more suffering than it prevents.
Meaning flexibility
A good meaning framework adapts to changing circumstances without breaking.